Being there for your loved ones……teach your little ones how to do it, too!
- Listen to your friend, rather than being focused on solving their problems.
- Empathise by honouring their feelings – all feelings are ok, so show respect by validating them.
- Show compassion by saying you’re sorry that they’re finding things so difficult.
- This may seem insignificant, but all these little things really do help.
- Be honest, when you don’t know how to help – it’s ok not to have an answer, never mind all the answers.
- Relationships can be messy – there may not be an immediate solution, so allow listening to be enough.
- Get them to reclaim their own power – after listening, ask them what they think they would like to do.
- Ask them about another time they were struggling – what did they do back then that might have helped?
- Avoid telling them what to do and resist the temptation to give any advice, however small.
- Get them to reach out to others – you may not be the best person to help in this situation and that’s ok.
- Draw on as wide a support network as possible – phoning & messaging are fine if talking proves too much.
- Don’t you go it alone, either – if you’re really concerned about your friend, tell a trusted confidant.
- You won’t be breaking their confidence if you use your discretion, while seeking other people’s experiences.
- Boundaries are important – if overwhelmed, take care of yourself by setting limits on your time together.
- Set the example – by prioritising your own needs, you’re showing others that it’s ok to do the same, too.